In other words, ONLINE DATING. Duh. Why didn't I think of that earlier? I had never tried it before and I was skeptical it would work. I had low expectations going in, but I figured what the hell? It couldn't hurt to try. Everything else I attempted had failed anyway. So I signed up to a dating website, threw up a profile, attached a photo of myself and emailed a bunch of girls.
After a few days, I started getting some responses. After a few weeks, I FINALLY had my first date with a woman. A sexy little brunette named Christine. HOLY SH*T. It actually worked. Years of loneliness, sadness, and frustration were finally over. By using online dating I bypassed all the crap you had to go through to meet women in real life. I felt as if I discovered the ultimate loophole to meeting women and setting up dates with them. I was praying that Christine would become my girlfriend, but due to my excessive inexperience with women she felt absolutely NO attraction for me whatsoever.
I made a move at the end of the date to give her a kiss but I was so nervous I didn't have the balls to kiss her on the lips.
I know this because I posed as an attractive woman on a dating site using a fake profile. I wanted to see what things looked like from the WOMAN’s perspective, so I borrowed a photo from a friend, type out a convincing description, then just sat back and watched.
That was exactly what I needed. The only thing missing was figuring out how to get women to write me back. I decided to give online dating another chance. This time though I tried sending different emails to different women. I tried out different profiles; different pictures and even different subject lines in my emails to see if that would make a difference.
I wasn’t discouraged though. I had taken a HUGE step forward. I managed to score a date with a beautiful woman. She wasn’t some 300 pound whale that nobody wanted. She was a woman that I could actually see myself with. Going out with her was like tasting candy for the first time. I wanted more. And to get more women in my life I needed PRACTICE. I needed to get comfortable around women so that I would develop the confidence and skills that women find attractive in a man.
I needed a way to filter out the women that weren’t single. I had to stop wasting time chasing women that weren’t available. I thought of singles bars, speed dating and other singles events. I searched online for a few hours but nothing seemed to be my cup of tea. It looked as if this was another dead end. Then the light bulb suddenly came on for me. It was so simple. Instead of using the computer to find places where single women frequent, why not use the computer to find single women directly .
You know what happened next? Absolutely nothing. I didn’t get one response. Not ONE. Now I was a failure at meeting women online and in real life. What a waste of time. I dismissed any chance that online dating could work, turned off the computer and went to bed. A few days later, I got an email from the site telling me I had several new matches. I was about to hit the delete button, but I stopped. Here was a system that automatically brought me new women every day that were not only single, but they were interested in meeting someone new.
Here’s how they break down... 1. Don’t Do What Every Other Guy Does... Most guys suck at online dating. They suffer from something I call the “differential paradox” meaning their first impulse is to send a woman an email that they PERCEIVE is original, but is actually the SAME as every other message that other guys send her.
(I ended up slobbering on her ear and neck instead.) Suffice it to say, things didn’t work out between us and I never saw her again.
I started keeping track of which emails girls tended to respond to the most. I jotted everything down in a notebook so I could use it for reference later on. Bit by bit I started putting the pieces of the online dating puzzle together. I continued this learning process over the next 5 years. Online dating had become my obession. It was insane. The result? I emailed THOUSANDS of women. I got HUNDREDS of responses. And I went on DOZENS of dates. I got to a point where I could set up a date with a woman any time I wanted. I had achieved what most men only dream about. I had created a system that let me date women on demand . I couldn’t believe it. Now you're probably wondering how it all works. Well, I discovered that being successful with meeting women online and setting up dates with them came down to four key principles.
That meant I had to go on more dates. And now I knew how to do that. I had to take what I learned from my first online dating experience and build upon it. I had to take it to the NEXT LEVEL. I had to perfect my craft and master this new medium. I contacted women on multiple dating sites every day, constantly testing what worked and what didn’t. I bought books, videos, and courses about online dating. Anything I could find related to the subject, I had to have. I took their ideas and combined it with my own stuff. I got to a point where I emailed 10-15 women every night and by the time I got home from work the next day, 5 or 6 of them had added me to MSN messenger.